'Add as Friend'

It might not seem that way given the proliferation of social media, but friendship is a choice, not an obligation.

Women tend to bungle this. How often have you found yourself holding onto a friendship way past its "sell by" because you felt guilty about letting go or because of some tenuous ties?

I've also been on the receiving end of irrational devotion from mere acquaintances. Ever experienced this? Girls, in particular, who'll create an imaginary bond with you based on what they believe is common ground?

On inspection, you couldn't be more Granny Smith and Florida Citrus.

I used to be absolutely gripped by residual Catholic school guilt, feeling like I owed anyone who sought it - my friendship.

Which is not to say that we shouldn't make every effort to be good to people in general, but who we choose to "friend" in life becomes a reflection of who we are.